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Saying Yes

July 25, 2014 By Erica Deuel 11 Comments

I sit here and I don’t exactly know what I want to say. I know my heart is raw and tender, and I want to always remember this feeling. The moment I am empty of myself, I find the most beautiful. It is these moments where I find it easier to rely on God, stop trying to do it all on my own, and surrender that I don’t have control.

I think it would be safe to say these last five months with our sweet foster son, my heart has largely been in this sweet, yet difficult place.

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stone_mountainYes, it is very hard to live day in and day out with such raw, heavy emotions, but it can be beautiful. Let me explain. When we said “yes” and brought a child in crisis into our home, we were bringing brokenness, hurt, pain, lies, bad habits, etc with him. It is a very trying experience to walk day in and day out with love in the midst of these circumstances. Not to mention having three other children in the home, who are little sponges. It was a constant balancing act of our hearts to care for everyone well.

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martaThere were many days where I was exhausted and cried. I couldn’t do it on my own. I learned that from our last foster experience. So, I think I was set up better this time around, but it didn’t change that it was still hard. The truth is though, all those things that lived in our FS, also lived in me. I have just perfected the art of putting up masks and shields.

This experience had me running to Jesus. I needed him. I relyed on him to get me through conversations, to give me grace, to not expect changes overnight, and to give me the qualities like patience, compassion, and mercy. I wanted to instill these in my kids, but couldn’t before emptying of myself.

love_is_patient_shirtThis sweet, sweet boy was used to change me. He made me see Jesus in a desperate way. Jesus is real, he is alive, and I saw him move. He moved my heart. I went from wanting a 1-year-old girl to saying yes to a 4-year-old boy. I went from wanting to help him to loving him like my own flesh and blood children.

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creativeEven in this moment, I type through tears as I hear one of my son’s saying “where is _______” and another eating his granola bar the exact way our FS always did. He has parts of our heart and we will always love him.

Yesterday, was a hard day as it was our last one with him in our care. We all cried heavy, hard tears as we said goodbye. It was real. I got to hug his great-aunt with my tears streaming onto her back and whisper she’s going to do a great job, and I believe it.  We then went out to dinner as our little family of five again. We told stories, joked , and I laughed so hard till my belly hurt. It was a beautiful moment to realize that even through pain…there can still be joy. God has not forgotten us and did not leave us in the moment when we said good-bye to our FS.

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holding_FSI feel like we have been grieving him leaving for a while, so now that the band-aid is officially pulled up, it is a mix of emotions. In sorting all these out for a few days, I have felt scared. Not scared for our FS, because I believe he has an amazing team around him to watch over and make sure he is safe and he is in the palms of our mighty God, but scared for our hearts. This boy was used to move blinders on my eyes and rocks in my heart. I needed him just as much as he needed me. But, laughing with my family, hanging on our bed all cuddled up together till we all crashed, and waking up today knowing and believe that God is still with me, I have a peace. God has never left me. We have hope. We have faith. God is not through with us yet. This was just another beautiful part of our story and the journey God is taking us through in this world.

One way I see God move now, is in the caring of our hearts through all of you. Thank you for the sweet texts, emails, comments, drop bys, hugs and messages saying you are praying for us. I can’t tell you how much I have felt them and you are being used to carry us. Although we were on the “front lines,” it was a team effort and we couldn’t have done it without the support of so many.

FamilyShot_CroppedWe will miss this sweet boy, but we will see him again. Looking back now I feel like when we said “yes” to that phone call five months ago, we were largely saying yes to God having the controls of our life in a raw, trusting way. It should be that way daily no matter what is happening or who lives in our home. I want to still wake up today and say “yes” to Jesus. We gave of ourselves, but really in that giving…we were blessed and changed far more than we could have ever expected.

It is a continued prayer that we will have strength to say “yes” to hard things and give love through it again and again.

As we reflect on our experience, the song posted below has become like an anthem for us. I hope and pray wherever you find yourself today that you would know there is a faithful God you can cry out to and find hope.

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Comments

  1. Lori Widman says

    July 25, 2014 at 3:41 pm

    I am filled with gratefulness for our Father’s care for you and your family. Thank you for this reminder! I am pleased to know you, Sweet Erica!

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    • ericadeuel says

      August 4, 2014 at 5:02 pm

      Thank you Lori!! Can’t wait to be in community with you!! XOXO

      Reply
  2. Annette Mills Lindsey says

    July 25, 2014 at 6:53 pm

    I am so proud of you and Matt and the God that love you and guides you!

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    • ericadeuel says

      August 4, 2014 at 5:01 pm

      Thank you so much Annette!! XOXO

      Reply
  3. Christina @ The Frugal Homemaker says

    August 4, 2014 at 4:47 pm

    I should know better than to come read your blog without a tissue 🙂 In so many ways I can relate. And I want to know that YOU and telling YOUR story is growing ME …is changing me. I wish that I would have responded as well to my trial as you have responded to yours. But it’s not too late- I can still pry my hands and heart open and say “yes, Lord” to other hard things that we are going through and I know will go through.

    Thankful for your friendship and I really do pray for you, your sweet family, and your sweet little FS. I pray that God will have His perfect will for HIS life and for your families life. Thinking He isn’t done writing this story yet! Thank you for telling your story and opening your heart to us so that we can learn and grow too.

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    • ericadeuel says

      August 4, 2014 at 5:00 pm

      Hahahah I LOVE YOU!!! You made me laugh and tear up all in this one comment. Thank you!! God knew what he did when he wired us for the need for community…together we are better and can encourage one another! Thanks for being a rock through this and being a cheerleader for me. You are a new-er friend that feels old…and i love it! XOXO

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      • Christina @ The Frugal Homemaker says

        August 4, 2014 at 5:35 pm

        Keep writing!! I need to read it 🙂

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  4. Jillian Grennon says

    August 4, 2014 at 4:52 pm

    Very moving post my friend. This boy was lucky to have you in his life. Keep your head up. You all are better for having had each other.

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    • ericadeuel says

      August 4, 2014 at 4:57 pm

      Thank you so much Jill!!!! I feel like I am starting to breath again 🙂 hopefully we ca talk soon!! Thanks for not giving up on me! XOXO

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  5. Dana Matheson says

    August 4, 2014 at 6:55 pm

    Such an amazing journey you were on…I’m speechless by your true awesomeness…you did something wonderful for that child all the while raising your own…amazing!

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